Intro:
This entry is part of a series of blog posts celebrating the essence of parenthood. Initiated by Deborah of Owl’s Well, the series highlights the theme, “Mothers make it work.” On this occasion, a few fathers have been invited to share how they support their partners in their roles as mothers. This is my tale.
Taking inspiration from Robert Frost’s ‘The road not taken,’ our path to parenthood was not a deliberate choice. However, this path has certainly shaped our journey significantly.
Our experience leading up to becoming parents was far from typical. To discuss my role in supporting my wife as a mother and partner, it’s crucial to understand the dynamics of our marriage.
Life’s Testing Times:
Our defining moments as a couple were not during our romantic dates or even our wedding day. While those were beautiful moments, the real essence of marriage became clear with challenges.
A haunting memory from 2007 is when our doctor warned of the risk to Angie’s life due to the treatments she was undergoing. During that period, Angie spent three long months in the hospital, trying to save our twins, who tragically did not survive. Celebrating birthdays and Mother’s Day in that small hospital room made me realize the depth of love and sacrifice Angie had for our family.
Witnessing Angie endure multiple IVFs and the pain of child losses, I began to understand the depth of her commitment to our union. Such experiences led us to question our purpose and why we faced such tribulations.
Blessings in Disguise:
Fast-forwarding nine years, we were graced with two wonderful children, marking the beginning of our parenting adventure.
Parenthood, contrary to popular belief, isn’t always smooth sailing. It presents various challenges, from logistics to finances, and even differences in parenting philosophies. Here are some principles that guide me:
- Bond: Marriage is about unity. As Angie’s partner, I strive to support her in every possible way, whether emotionally, physically, or spiritually. Our relationship thrives on mutual understanding and communication.
- Quality Time: Our small car rides or errands become moments for us to connect without distractions, ensuring our bond remains strong amidst our busy schedules.
- Personal Space: It’s essential to understand that while we cherish family time, individuals need their solitude or social interactions outside the family.
- Conflict Resolution: Disagreements are inevitable. However, they offer growth opportunities if addressed with patience and understanding.
- Faith: Our Christian beliefs have been our anchor, guiding us through the most challenging times.
Our journey through marriage was recently celebrated in Copenhagen, Denmark. This trip was a testament to our bond and the strength that has carried us through ups and downs.
Closing Thoughts:
Despite our imperfections, our decision to be together and start a family defines our journey. We strive to make every moment count, cherishing the life we have together.
End Note:
This post is a segment of the ‘Mothers Make It Work’ Blog Train, initiated by Debs G from Owls Well Blog.